Saturday, November 30, 2013

The Beautiful, Triumphant Heart

Your heart will tell you everything you need to know...just listen to it.

I believe we all have treasure chests filled to the brim with abundant love, tragic pain, lessons learned and a variety of memories. The beautiful, triumphant heart feels our every emotion and event. It keeps us alive and radiates with boundless energy. It's almost as if it speaks with an intense desire and, provided we treat it kindly, the heart will remain a treasure in our chest which aches until its needs are met.

The heart is a magnificent, miraculous creation! I believe I've heard it been said that the heart is similar to a gentle global positioning system, always bringing us back to the person we want to be.

Video Blogs ~ More Yet To Come
Can't Keep A Codependent Girl Down
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2xrR55OpssI

Can't Keep A Sober Girl Down
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1t9m2R8cJk

Testimonial
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbU4Nxk2GIE

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Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Wisdom From A Chinese Poet

“If you can’t see what you’re looking for, pay attention to what’s already there. That is enough.”-Chinese Poet

Sunday, November 24, 2013

A Woman's Intelligence

A woman's intelligence is sexy to both women and men, I believe. Guys even speak of how bored they are! Stupidity might work for awhile, though it looks inferior, fake and unattractive.  

Unfortunately, I hear many women uttering these three words all too much: I am stupid.

I used to say this too, so I get it. I love all of the women and even men who have called me out on it and thank you! This talk undermined my own sense and completely skewed my perception of who I was!

Today I understand that to speak this way about myself means that I am wasting an opportunity to be myself. I am being less than what is true on the inside of my soul. It worked for a short while, but oh how I got sick of not being my full, authentic self! I now know that it derived from a place of fear of not being accepted or 'liked'...sometimes even loved. I made poor choices and was Fake.

Anytime I choose to pretend to be someone other than who I truly am authentically, I am choosing stupidity: lacking intelligence, common sense and/or good judgment. I am also not allowing people around me to truly know who I am. That is no longer a direction I am choosing to follow, for in the past it dimmed my light and my life. It also created distress in the people around me, and for good reason.

Over 43 million hits! Hopefully we women can start sharing our 'stupid girl' experiences with younger girl generations so this cycle doesn't continue. Silence keeps them in the not-knowing. When we know better, we do better.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BR4yQFZK9YM

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Friday, November 22, 2013

Praying For Inspiration

If you're going to pray, don't bother to worry. And if you're going to worry, why bother to pray? Praying opens the heart and centers.

Definition of Pray: (v) a request or expression of thanks; act of worship.

I can't really do both at the same time, I know that! Praying for inspiration lifts my spirits almost immediately and it always seems to work. I believe intercession is a gift of love. So, if I trust that God loves-which I do-then there really is no place for worry inside of that.

When I doubt, it is usually because things are not going the way I think they should. When I am present to this, I pray that my controlling thoughts be lifted. How about you? Do you trust that prayer works?

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Thursday, November 21, 2013

How I See Love

I ran across this verse tonight: "To who much is given, much is required." -Numbers 18
It propelled a thought in my mind about how I see love and thought I would share.

How you know someone loves you: When they invest in you, knowing there is no guarantee, and yet they love you anyway.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

I'm In Love With Truth

I am so passionately in love with truth.

I'm going to keep this blog very simple. People, including myself, are not used to people telling the truth...so sometimes the truth can be disarming. Though it is so incredibly refreshing!

The truth may hurt and yet it is authentic, real and for the greater good. I'm in love with truth.

Monday, November 18, 2013

Embracing Thriving Instead of Surviving

Being a Survivor: quality of embracing life. Even for a moment.
Being a Thriver: quality of growing vigorously, while embracing life; despite any circumstances at hand.

How to Thrive:
Create a goal.
Lay out the steps needed to be taken. Get specific.
Ask for help from someone who's completed the goal (why try to reinvent the wheel?).
Work vigorously on progressing through the steps.
Complete the goal.
Help someone else by sharing your experience.
Revel in gratitude.
Repeat!

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Sunday, November 17, 2013

I Learn A Lot From Movies

To see the written word come alive in film, wow!

I have learned a lot from movies over the years. They have helped raise me, inspire me, create a paradigm shift in my thinking all while entertaining and evoking emotion. Movies are my great escape from time to time and usually I walk away after the ending a little different from when I first sat down.

Life experiences and ideas written creatively by a writer, then packaged with directors, producers, actors and crew to be brought to life on film...what a transformation in itself. No wonder why so many movies inspire and evoke a wondrous list of emotions! I am in awe and in absolute gratitude for movies.

Some of the movies that have passionately changed my life
This years' favs were The Butler, Stuck In Love, Silver Linings Playbook and The Place Beyond the Pines

Angels in America
Eat, Pray, Love
Field of Dreams
Lady Sings The Blues
Dirty Dancing
Crazy, Stupid Love (So funny and true. Plus, what woman wouldn't stand by a man who fights for love-and with Ryan's 6-pack abs to boot?!)
Good Will Hunting
Girl, Interrupted
Mermaids
Great Balls of Fire
Vertigo
North by Northwest
The Elephant Man (as a child, this movie moved me to refrain from judgment and embrace humanity)
The Shawshank Redemption
A Bronx Tale
Seven Samurai
The Departed (brilliantly done!)
Shakespeare In Love
What Dreams May Come
Ever After
Miracle on 34th Street
City of Angels
Wild Hearts Can't Be Broken
To Kill a Mockingbird
A Walk to Remember
Dead Poets Society
The Wizard of Oz
The Little Darling (Mary Pickford, what an inspiration!)
Love Actually
Training Day
Thelma & Louise
Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?
Serendipity
The Breakfast Club
Philadelphia
Crash
Westside Story
Center Stage
Save The Last Dance
Dream a Little Dream
Snow Falling on Cedars
Days of Wine and Roses
E.T.
Malcolm X
Fight Club
The Notebook
My Name is Bill W.
Gandhi
Forrest Gump
The Pursuit of Happiness
When A Man Loves A Woman
National Lampoon movies for sure!
Out of Africa
The Bridges of Madison County
Fast Food Nation


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Friday, November 15, 2013

So, Why Are You Single?

I am pretty certain that this question is thrown at me on daily basis. Mostly from men. My usual response? "Because God is my main man right now and I'm putting all I have into my writing. I don't have time for a relationship."

Below is my thought process behind my usual response, my own personal truth.

Okay, so I truly believe that God has a plan for a future relationship that does not include any of the following:
Crying in my pillow for hours on end-without compassion from the man
Being lied to consistently
Cheating on me with booze, drugs or women
Emotional, verbal, mental or physical abuse (especially not gaslighting http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting)
Flip-floppity indecision and confusion
My partner speaking to women with hinting or blatant sexual innuendos
I want to marry you, I'm falling in love with you, you're the woman of my dreams, I love you...wait, I don't know what I want
I was too busy to call you (and it's been a whole day)
No accountability for inconsideration
Bad mouthing my family or friends
Expectation of sex before there is a promise of love

Oy vey! I've battled with a good portion of that list for too long! They just weren't right for me or we weren't right for eachother, or or or the puzzle should simply be left on the freakin' floor and I stay single! Honestly, I just recently wrote a poem to a guy who wanted to be my guy, letting him know that my heart was a bit hardened from past experiences. So, obviously, I'm not ready to step back out there yet.

Are my expectations high? I don't believe so. My standards are though, most certainly.

I used to be Miss Pollyanna of love. I believed...I trusted...I put in a lavish amount of effort based upon how I felt, how many times I heard the I love you's or other flattery and by how many thoughtful gifts I received...even before several months into the relationship. Only did I ever listen and believe from the men, "Oh, my ex had issues." I could have kicked my own butt several times for not trusting my own gut that something didn't feel right.

I've heard it been said that When You Know Better, You Do Better. Well darnit, I'm looking up and trusting that God is in charge of picking and I'm not to go into any relationship full-force with a Pollyanna veil of lust and infatuation wrapped around my brain. I want to marry my best friend who puts God first, preferably sober, highly intellectual and can make me laugh and dance until the sun rises from time to time.

So, that is my perspective on why I am still single. Plus, women are absolutely amazing and way more fun to hang with and confide in at this time in my life. And maybe, just maybe, Bradley Cooper will be single by the time my friends and I go see him perform on Broadway next summer in the play The Elephant Man. He is damn smart and sober! Ha! A girl can always dream. :)

So, passionate ladies, can you relate?

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Coming Soon

You asked for love stories (anonymous ones of course ;)

Well, this blog is all about full self-expression! Love, dreams & goals, wonder, best friends, travel, mystery...everything/everyone I am-or have been-passionate about, experiences, lessons and even things that tick me off. No holds barred! Please come back. First blog will be up by 12am CST on November 16th.

I am incredibly excited to share my 'dramatic diary' blog because, as all you passionate ladies already know, ya Can't Keep A Passionate Girl Down!

Hopefully you'll share here, too. I've heard absolutely fabulous stories so far and thank you kindly for sharing.